Pendragons Princess

Or triplets. File this under “Having children for all of the wrong reasons”:

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/2741085/Mum-of-13-I-wont-stop

-until-Ive-had-twins.html

Mum of 13: I won’t stop until I’ve had twins

November 22, 2009

A MUM-OF-13 who costs taxpayers £50,000 a YEAR has said she won’t stop having kids until she gives birth to twins.

Baby machine Sara Foss, 39, is due to give birth to her 14TH child in April but will try to get pregnant again as soon as possible to realise her dream.

The brazen mum said today: “All I’ve ever wanted is twins or triplets. It’s my biggest wish, and I’m going to keep trying until I do it.

“It would be fantastic. In fact, I won’t stop trying until I’ve done it. I love having babies - it’s the most wonderful thing in the world.”

Allowance

Sara was 16 when she had her first baby, Patrick, in 1986 - but, traumatised by giving birth, she vowed not to have any more children.

It was a decade before she changed her mind and had a second son, Stephen - and she has almost averaged a birth a YEAR ever since.

She said: “I got over my fear of labour and just started having kids. They’re all brilliant. They don’t give me any bother. They’re fantastic.”

Her mammoth brood now comprises Patrick, 23, Stephen, 13, Malachai, 12, Peppermint, 11, Echo, 10, Eli, nine, Rogue, eight, Frodo, seven, Morpheus, five, Artemis, four, Blackbird, three, Baudelaire, two, and nine-month-old Voorhees.

All bar Patrick share a three-bedroom council house with their mother and father, Sara’s long-term partner Stephen Smith, 40.

Even though Stephen works as a canal boat builder, the couple receive £4,200 in tax credits and family allowance every month.

Yet Sara, who has just run up a £5,000 bill buying her children’s Christmas gifts at Toys R Us, claims they have to watch every penny.

She insisted: “I had been saving up all year so that we would have enough money to get all the presents. It was really hard work.

“We were in the shop for hours. Stephen had to do several trips home to take back what we had bought. I had blisters afterwards.”

Each week the family forks out around £600 on groceries - including 32 loaves of bread, 75lb of potatoes and 126 pints of milk.

They also buy 36 rolls of toilet paper, three boxes of washing powder and eight boxes of cereal during their regular supermarket shop.

The annual school uniform bill is £2,000, and their holiday at Butlin’s costs even more - mainly because they have to hire a minibus.

Sara, of Derby, begins her chores at 4am every morning and keeps the house spotlessly clean to avoid being tagged a layabout scrounger.

She said: “If people saw us living in a pigsty they would say that we were a scrounging, low-life family who begged from the State.

“They would say I was a slapper for having so many children and that I couldn’t even be bothered to keep the house looking nice.

“And that’s so not true. Even when I’m straight I can’t put my feet up. I’ve been known to take down curtains at midnight and wash them.”

She added: “We have a lot of bunkbeds and cots. All the furniture in the bedrooms is on wheels so that we can move it at bedtime.

“Baudelaire sleeps in a travel cot, and a couple of the lads use an airbed. It’s a squash and a squeeze, but it’s cosy. It’s home.”

Now 20 weeks’ pregnant with baby number 14, Sara is preparing to welcome the clan’s latest arrival - and already planning for more.

She said: “I wanted two - that’s the disappointing part of this pregnancy. But there’s always next time. I’m going to keep trying, that’s for sure.”
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Converted to American dollars, £50,000 comes to about $82,000.00 a year. That is indeed an obscene amount when you consider Sara Foss is a social parasite in the UK. That sort of thing would never be tolerated here. This is just one more reason the Labour Party is becoming more and more unpopular in the UK. It is not bad enough when a woman like Foss lusts for twins as she has lusted to have all of those other children. She clearly makes babies just to get extra welfare checks a month even though her partner Stephen works. It is a shame he does not have the backbone to say “No more babies to her.” Maybe the UK can legislate a law mandating women to get sterilized. Babies are one thing no women “needs.”

It never stops:

http://www.parentdish.com/2009/11/18/gender-disappointment-when-
parents-dont-get-the-child-they-wan/

Gender Disappointment: When Parents Don’t Get The Child They Wanted

by Amy Hatch (Subscribe to Amy Hatch’s posts) Nov 18th 2009 12:44PM

Parents wait with bated breath to learn the gender of their unborn baby — and sometimes, the answer isn’t what they wanted to hear. Gender disappointment is a real and often heartbreaking matter for mothers and fathers who had their hearts set on a boy or a girl.

We chatted about this in the office when our colleague, an AOL editor who’s expecting his first child, admitted that had his heart set on a girl.

“Everybody in my family has girls,” he tells us, preferring to remain anonymous. “I guess we need a boy in the family, but when the doctor told us we were having a boy, I was so disappointed.”He says he knows he shouldn’t be upset, and that as long as his son is healthy he’ll be a happy dad, indeed. But that doesn’t stop him from thinking about what could have been.

Joyce Venis is a psychiatric nurse in Princeton, N.J., who works with parents who have similar reactions. Gender disappointment is often dismissed or not discussed, she recently told MSNBC, because parents feel they will appear ungrateful.

Venis adds that it’s not wrong for parents to hope for a specific gender, and it does not mean that they don’t want the child. “They have the right to want the certain sex,” she tells MSNBC. But if the problem is severe enough to cause symptoms of depression, parents should not be ashamed to seek the advice of a therapist.

In some cultures, gender disappointment takes on even greater import. In China, for example, where the government limits the number of children parents can have, boys are preferred because they continue the family line. In too many cases there, parents have been known to abandon or even kill their newborn baby girls.

Back in America, our colleague knows that he’s lucky, and jokes about how his wife tells him to stop talking about having a girl in front of their unborn son.

“She really wanted a boy,” he says. “She always tells me when I talk about it, ‘The baby can hear you!’” He adds that one reason he wanted a little girl is so that he could see a “cute little version of his wife running around, but I’m still super excited either way.”

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The one thing that really stands out here is when the colleague admits he wants a girl just so he can have a miniature version of his wife. Now how is that for living up to the standards of the childfree? That is eaxctly something I would say: the man wants a child just so he could have a miniature version of his wife. God forbid he has a child to actually love. I guess the miniature version takes precedence over everything else for people like this colleague. That just goes to show you why people have children for all of the wrong reasons. But I am of the school of thought that people do not have babies just to have someone to love; they just want a tiny version of themselves to lavish certain things upon that the adult version never received as a child. It must be that $800.00 stroller. No, it might as well be a “Look at what I have!” statement to the world.

This happened in Bulgaria (no state in the Union permits marriage at the age of 11). Read on:

http://www.newsoftheworld.co.uk/news/575565/This-11-year-old-schoolgirl
-had-a-baby-on-her-wedding-day.html?mode=error

This 11-year-old schoolgirl had a baby … on her wedding day

By Jane Atkinson in Sliven, Bulgaria, 01/11/2009

HOLDING up her tiny baby for the camera, 11-year-old bride Kordeza declares: “I’m not going to play with toys any more - I have a new toy now.”

For the youngster barely old enough to start senior school has just become a MOTHER after going into labour during her WEDDING to her teenage boyfriend.

She was still wearing her flowing white dress and tiara when she arrived at hospital and gave birth to 5lb 8oz Violeta.

But after spending the night with her newborn, Kordeza - who you can see on video below - changed back into her wedding dress and nipped out to finish the ceremony.

And the Zhelyazkova family couldn’t be happier for their child bride - the youngest girl ever to give birth in a city where 13-year-old mums are routine.

After leaving hospital this week, Kordeza - who fell pregnant within two weeks of her 11th birthday - spoke exclusively to the News of the World.

With proud husband Jeliazko Dimitrov, 19, at her side, Kordeza admitted: “It feels strange to be a mum and have a baby.

“I used to play with my toys but now she is my new toy. She is so beautiful, I love her. Violeta is the child and I must grow up. I am not going back to school - I am a mother now.”

Kordeza met Jeliazko in the playground of her Roma gypsy school in Sliven, Bulgaria, when he rescued her from bullies.

The worried teenager - who is facing up to six years in prison for having sex with a minor - wrings his hands as he recalled: “I was walking past the school when I saw some boys mocking her and I told them to leave her alone.

“Then she arranged to meet me and asked me out on our first date. I thought she was 15. She didn’t tell me she was 11.”

Kordeza giggled: “I didn’t want to say in case he wouldn’t fancy me.”

The pair went on their first date to their local park then met at his mum Violeta’s house near the gypsy ghetto where they both grew up.

But within a WEEK of them meeting, their daughter was conceived. Kordeza admitted: “I haven’t had sex education classes and I didn’t know how to get pregnant. I’d never had a boyfriend and I’d never heard of condoms.

“I didn’t know I was pregnant until my grandmother saw I had put on weight. I just thought I’d eaten too many burgers.”

By then Kordeza was five months pregnant and living with her grandmother Dida, 55, because her parents were both working on vineyards in Spain.

Home is a ramshackle one- bedroom bungalow with no bathroom tucked away in a labyrinth of filthy alleys in the ghetto - ironically called Hope.

Dida said: “I noticed she was getting fatter and asked if she was OK. But she’s a shy girl and she just shrugged at me. I never imagined she was having sex. She’s the kind of girl that likes to play on the computer and loves her schoolwork - her favourite subject is maths.

“I was still worried though and when she told me she had met a boy I bought her a pregnancy test. I hit the roof when it was positive, and she cried and cried.”

Incredibly, it is not uncommon for Roma girls to fall pregnant in their teens. Sliven is the underage mums capital of Europe with 177 cases last year.

Dida, who herself married at 13, explained: “It’s normal for our girls to have babies young. It’s our tradition. But I didn’t want it for my Kordeza - I felt she was too young.”

When Jeliazko found out he was going to be a dad he dashed back from Spain, where he had been working on farms.

He recalled: “I was really scared. We didn’t plan to have sex or a baby although I fell in love with Kordeza the moment I saw her.”

Her mum Raina, 33, said: “I fainted when I found out Kordeza was pregnant. I couldn’t believe it but I knew I had to stand by her.”

The family quickly planned a three-day Roma wedding for October 22 - so Kordeza and Jeliazko could be married before the baby was born.

His mum Violeta, 36, married at 13 and had him when she was 14. She explained: “It is so important for our women to be married when they have a baby.”

Nobody presides over the ceremony, but Roma gypsies believe the weddings - where most brides are aged 14 to 17 - are legal in their tradition and more important than a conventional service.

But as the families marked the second day of celebrations, Kordeza went into labour a week early. She explained: “I had been having pain in the morning and a couple of hours into the wedding it got worse.”

She was rushed to hospital and gave birth 20 minutes later. Kordeza said: “It was quite easy but painful too. I was very happy when I saw her. She has a nose like me and hair like Jeliazko.”

The new mum then returned to the ceremony in time to be married before getting back to the hospital to feed her baby.

Both grandmothers will be guardians of baby Violeta, easing the concerns of local social services who initially wanted to take the baby into care. Kordeza and her daughter will receive £70 a month in state benefits.

Hospital doctor Sonya Mihaylova confirmed: “This is the youngest child who ever gave birth in our ward.”

Raina said: “Kordeza is still a child and I hope to do everything I can to make sure she isn’t robbed of her free time.”

Prison

But her new husband Jeliazko is not allowed to live with her as the Prosecutor’s Office is investigating the case. For having sex with a girl under 14 he could face two to six years in prison.

Jeliazko said: “I’m scared. I want to look after my wife and child. Instead I may be going to prison. I made a mistake but I am not going to apologise for that because now I have beautiful Violeta.” Raina added: “Everybody seems to be against Kordeza and Jeliazko but what have they done wrong? They are a young couple in love.”

They are already planning their future together. Jeliazko said: “We know that having a baby is a big responsibility. My wife is young but I will make sure that I look after both of them if the law allows me.”

And he dreams of giving his daughter a better future. “I am going to work hard and make sure we all have a good life,” he promised. “I want Violeta to be educated, to be able to read and write. She was born famous and maybe she will stay famous like becoming a doctor who invents brilliant medicine or saves lives.

“Whatever she does I will be proud of her - she is my little girl.”

Kordeza adds: “I don’t want more children right away. I think one is enough for now.”

The family are planning a huge party next week to celebrate Violeta’s birth. Jeliazko’s mum said: “We want to show her off. I just hope that my son does not go to prison.

“He is a good boy and a hard worker. He loves his wife and he will support his baby.

“I don’t think it matters that they are young. They are in love with each other and the baby. Surely that is enough.”
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“My daughter is my new toy.” Excuse me? I thought it was bad enough American women consider their babies to be the newest Louis Vuitton handbag, but toy? What the hell is wrong with this child? I have nothing against gypsies, but this is outrageous. To top that off, her husband is facing prison time. What a prize he turned out to be - not. Kordeza’s mother is only 33 and a grandmother. I can’t see that that is somethig to be proud of or brag about - all that does is give her a bad image of having babies at such a young age. Most gypsies are dirt poor and live in extreme poverty due to lack of education. What’s even worse is that these people have bought into that myth of “my child will grow up to cure cancer one day” myth. It just goes to show you even gypsies are not above the child and baby-centered culture of the planet Earth. Such sadness for an 11 year old! Her life will be full of hardship, having to care for a baby and not go to school. And Jeliazko belongs in jail for the rest of his life for doing something he never should have done: have sex with a child.

Sounds like this guy came from the same egg as the woman in the last posting:

http://www.modbee.com/local/story/330185.html

Monday, Jun. 16, 2008

Police shoot, kill man who savagely beat toddler to death near Turlock

Driver stopped when he saw man slamming something into road

By MICHAEL R. SHEA

The officer who tried to stop a Turlock man from savagely beating his 2-year-old son fired one shot and struck the man in the forehead, killing him, Modesto police said today.

Officer Jerry Ramar shot the man as he raised his middle finger to the officer and resumed kicking the child lying in the road, a Modesto police statement said.

Ramar had flown to the scene aboard a Stanislaus County sheriff’s helicopter. The pilot, Deputy Rob Latape, landed the chopper in a cow pasture near where the man was beating his son.

Latape said the decision to land wasn’t difficult.

“It was the right thing to do,” he said. “That baby needed help and I knew we had to do something.”

UPDATE — 2:08 p.m.TURLOCK — The Stanislaus County coroner will use DNA technology to confirm that the toddler savagely beaten to death on a rural road near Turlock was killed by his father, the sheriff’s department said today. Detectives said Sergio Aguiar, 27, had no criminal record.

A sheriff’s statement said Chief Coroner Krist Ah You is working with the state Department of Justice to expedite results from the DNA test within a week, instead of the usual four to six weeks.

Toxicology tests on Aguilar’s body and on the body of the child, Sergio Axel Aguiar, will be taken. Those results are expected in about four weeks.

The sheriff’s department encouraged anyone with information on the case to call the office at 209-525-7114. Callers also may call Crime Stoppers at 521-4636.

Editor’s note: The spelling of Aguiar has been corrected from earlier reports. —–

UPDATE — 12:40 p.m. TURLOCK — The toddler who was beaten to death on a dark country road Saturday night was killed by his father, The Bee learned today. At the scene of the beating, someone left a teddy bear and a rose today, apparently a memorial for the boy who was killed.

Sergio Aguilar, 27, parked his gold 2002 Toyota truck on West Bradbury Road near the intersection of South Blaker Road in rural Stanislaus County, then punch, kicked and stomped the small boy to death until a Modesto police officer, dropped on the scene by a helicopter, shot the man dead.

Birth records show the baby boy was born May 8, 2006. The mother, Frances Liliana Casian, did not want to comment this morning.

The boy’s name has not been released.

Passers-by calling 911 at 10:13 p.m. described a horrific scene 10 miles west of Turlock and 15 miles south of Modesto. At least one tried to stop the attacker, who swung and slammed the toddler into the asphalt and stomped on him behind his parked four-door pickup.

Dan Robinson, 52, the chief of Crows Landing Volunteer Fire Department, who jousted with the man before police arrived, said the attack spoke of “demons” in the child and had a “total hollowness in his eyes.”

A Stanislaus County Sheriff’s Department helicopter, flown by a deputy with a Modesto police officer in the second seat, was on patrol in the Turlock area. It arrived six minutes after the first 911 call, said deputy Royjindar Singh, sheriff’s department spokesman.

The helicopter landed in a cow pasture and the Modesto police officer jumped out. He drew his gun and commanded the man to stop from about 10 feet away from behind a set of electric and barbed wire fences. When the man “continued to stomp the child,” the officer fired, Singh said.

The toddler was rushed to Emanuel Medical Center in Turlock, where he was pronounced dead.

Singh said on Sunday that DNA testing may be required to identify the toddler because he was beaten beyond recognition.

The Modesto Police Department, which is handling the officer-involved shooting, said more information will be available this afternoon.

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TURLOCK — A crazed man parked on a dark country road, took a toddler from the car seat in his pickup and beat the boy to death until a Modesto police officer, dropped on the scene by helicopter, shot the man dead, authorities said. As of late morning, the Stanislaus County Sheriff’s Department had not released any new details on the case, including the identity of the child and the man who killed him.

Passers-by calling 911 at 10:13 p.m. Saturday described a horrific scene on West Bradbury Road near the intersection of South Blaker Road in rural Stanislaus County, 10 miles west of Turlock. At least one tried to stop the 27-year-old attacker, who swung and slammed the toddler into the asphalt and stomped on him behind his parked four-door Toyota pickup.

“In the shadows and light it looked like he had hit an animal,” said Dan Robinson, the chief of Crows Landing Volunteer Fire Department, who came upon the chaos on his way home from a late dinner in Turlock. “As we backed up again, I could see that he had blood on his arms. I could see that it was a small child.”

Robinson, 52, jumped from his vehicle and confronted the man, who lunged at him. Robinson said the man wasn’t screaming and wasn’t loud, but was forceful, saying “demons” were in the boy.

“Give me the knife. Give me the knife,” the man said as he grabbed for a pen in the fireman’s front pocket.

“There was a total hollowness in his eyes,” Robinson said, “like I could see right through to the back of his head.”

A Stanislaus County Sheriff’s Department helicopter, flown by a deputy with a Modesto police officer in the second seat, was on patrol in the Turlock area. It arrived six minutes after the first 911 call, said deputy Royjindar Singh, sheriff’s department spokesman.

“The helicopter spotlights the scene and sees this guy just beating on this infant or baby in the middle of the road. I can’t imagine what that looked like,” Singh said.

The helicopter landed in a cow pasture and the Modesto police officer jumped out. He drew his service pistol and commanded the man to stop from about 10 feet away from behind a set of electric and barbed wire fences. When the man “continued to stomp the child,” the officer fired, Singh said.

“They intervened to try and save that infant’s life. They thought they could change the outcome of this thing,” Singh said.

The officer’s name, the number of times he fired and where the dead man was shot were not released Sunday. The officer was placed on paid administrative leave, which is departmental policy for all officer-involved shootings. He is 37, with more than six years in law enforcement, four of them with Modesto.

The toddler was rushed to Emanuel Medical Center in Turlock, where he was pronounced dead.

Authorities would not disclose the identity of the dead man or his relationship to the boy pending family notification. Singh said the boy was 12 to 24 months old, but DNA testing may be required to identify him because he was beaten beyond recognition.

“Our firefighter was doing CPR on the baby when I arrived,” said Mountain View Fire Chief Kevin Blount, who was there shortly after the shooting. “It’s never easy, but it’s always harder with little children, especially in circumstances like this.”

Confusion and spotty cell phone coverage had dozens of police scrambling through Ceres and Turlock until the location became clear. The violence, Singh said, was so graphic from the helicopter’s bird’s-eye view that there was no hesitation on the part of the officer, who shot the attacker dead after less than two minutes on the scene.

Dozens of law enforcement personnel, set up under giant spotlights, worked through the night trying to piece together what happened. The attacker and the little boy were traveling west, but his gold truck was parked in the wrong lane, facing oncoming traffic.

Modesto police, the Sheriff’s Department and the Stanislaus County district attorney’s office are investigating the officer-involved shooting. Sheriff’s personnel are investigating the baby’s death.

By Sunday afternoon, the detectives had cleared out.

Short rows of fresh planted corn lined one side of the road, cows were pastured in another. The helicopter rotors washed a big dirt circle into the green pasture. Two long, dark bloodstains streaked the road.

Neighbors mingled on the fence line of nearby Thomas Dairy asking the same questions as investigators: Was the attacker on drugs? Mentally ill? All of the above? Why did it happen here?

Isabelle Thomas, who lives a few hundred yards from the scene, was working at Emanuel Medical Center, a nurse in the surgical unit, when her son called her with word something bad had happened. Soon she heard of the little boy who died 500 yards from her front door.

“I couldn’t go to sleep. I couldn’t rest without seeing it and all that blood. I couldn’t believe all that blood,” she said.

Sunday morning, she watched a tow truck haul away the pickup. The inside cab, she said, was smeared with blood. A rosary swung from the rearview mirror.

“I’ve been here 53 years,” said her brother, John Thomas, “and I’ve never seen anything like this. I’ve never seen anything like this before.”

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This is sickening beyond reason. Too many idiots are breeding and they are proving to the world that they are very bad parents. Men like Aguiar do not even deserve the titles of parent or father; just because they squeeze one out means only one thing: their reproductive organs are in working order and nothing else. He got what was coming to him though. Having a child is never an exclusive right, it is a responsibility, and people who abuse their children like this must be prepared to receive the punishment that fits the crime.

File this one under: It’s different whan it’s your own

http://www.bostonherald.com/news/national/northeast/view.bg?articleid=1208638

Naked woman slams baby to ground in NYC suburb

By Associated Press

Saturday, October 31, 2009 -

NEW YORK — Police in Mount Vernon say a naked, screaming woman took her 5-month-old baby into the street and threw him to the ground at least twice before a witness intervened.

The violent episode happened in front of a church at about 1:40 p.m. Friday in the New York City suburb.

The baby was badly injured and was being treated at Westchester Medical Center.

The woman was undergoing a psychological evaluation at a different hospital. Police say she will face charges.
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Chances are she was as thrilled as hell while pregnant, getting attention from everyone as usual, but once the baby came, forget about it. Hopefully her child will be rescued from her, then her tubes will be tied, as one commenter said. There is no need for a baby to suffer at the misery of its parent. And people call the childfree selfish.

IMHO it’s gone too far five years ago, but read on:

http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/comment/columnists/janice_turner/article6916343.ece

November 14, 2009

Worship of children has gone too far

Since when did raising a child elevate you to a state of grace with big benefits attached?

Janice Turner

At 86 my parents don’t get out much, but once a week they like to have lunch at the café of their local supermarket. Since both now walk with a stick — my ma is registered disabled, my dad recovering from a stroke — they need to park close to the store.

But this week the disabled places were all full so they took the nearest one, a parent-and-child bay. Later they returned to their car to find a note pinned to the windscreen.

“This is not a disabled space,” it said. “This is for parents, you stupid old bastards.” So, it appears that some young and able-bodied mother or father — the note, of course, was anonymous — thought that their own inconvenience in having to walk small children a few yards farther across a car park took precedence over the needs of the elderly couple they had clearly observed struggling inside. And they were so enraged by this injustice that they took out a Biro and penned words calculated to scare or shame them into line.

The note-writer is ignorant as well as cruel: a Blue Badge holder has the right to park in any space — even on yellow lines — by law. Parent-and- child parking is just a gimmick, a marketing wheeze: families, with their megapacks of Pampers and Frubes, their £100-plus weekly shops, are customers worth cultivating. And while, a decade ago, when I had babies myself, I appreciated the extra room to open doors wide and fiddle fat-fingeredly with pesky car-seat buckles, I saw those spaces as a courtesy, not a right.

When did parents grow so entitled? Obviously this note-writer is at the farthest end of the spectrum. But in recent years there has been a burgeoning belief that to raise a child elevates you to a state of grace, precludes any accusations of selfishness — since motherhood is one, long selfless sacrifice — and the world must listen up to your shrill, me-first demands, however egregious.

This week, a London mother, Lisa Smith, was ordered off a 139 bus because her pushchair was too large to fit into the space reserved for buggies and the driver believed that it was blocking the doors. “He actually wanted me to take my child out into the pouring rain and walk,” she said aghast, as if 19-month-old Oliver dissolves like bath salts when damp. But why, a legion of women were wondering, didn’t Ms Smith do what bus-going mums have always done and fold the bloody buggy?

A decade ago we had no choice. Extract wriggling boy, clutch shopping bags in one hand, wrestle pram’s cussed mechanism with other, catapult across aisle when bus took off. There was no buggy area on buses. Or, rather, no space designated for wheelchairs, since that was London Transport’s primary intent. Now folding a buggy, even to admit a disabled passenger, is treated as an outrageous inconvenience, accompanied by glares and harrumphing.

That Ms Smith’s buggy was too humungous even to fit in that space was telling. Pushchairs have expanded like obese toddlers over the years. Those £400 celeb-endorsed off-roaders with the fat-boy wheels are as long and low-lying as Formula One racers, able to traverse the Serengeti but not squeeze on to packed Tube trains. Many fancier pushchairs are now so unwieldy that they aren’t much smaller when collapsed.

Designers deduce that parents feel entitled to dominate public space and to assume that crowds of commuters will part in awe at the early morning entrance of the Quinny Zap bearing His Majesty the Baby. Indeed, on public transport you witness a reversal of the natural order. Children were once taught to stand up for older folks or at least squeeze two to a seat, the littlest on a lap. Now you see a great lunking line of kids smugly filling a carriage, their own parents standing like stoic pack animals carrying everyone’s coats. I see mothers relegated to the back seats of their own cars, surrendering all hope of adult conversation or control of the radio, so that a seven-year-old can ride up front with Dad.

Little wonder then, if adults feel obliged to deliver ludicrous, super-luxe levels of comfort and care for their children, that they start to regard parenthood as akin to a disability. From Gordon’s “hard-working families” to media mummies penning tear-stained farewells to careers that they can’t combine with caring for one small baby, we never stop hearing how near impossible it is to raise a child.

Yet if you are Western woman, blessed with a healthy baby — and not a single mum trapped in a broken-lifted council flat — motherhood has never been a bigger doddle. The gadgets, the gazillion cartoon channels, a whole internet bubbling with advice and affirmation, the airlines with their early boarding and kiddy pencil sets, the fathers who look after their kids more than any men yet born. A family-friendly faith is universally preached: you can breast-feed in church, let your toddler eat at The Ivy, take your Year 6 son to a White Stripes gig, change a nappy on a pub table at midnight and few would dare to suggest that this is not the right place.

And whatever government is in power next year, the centrality of families in public policy will not change. Long gone are the Eighties Tory grandees who laughed at Harriet Harman for suggesting that afterschool clubs were the State’s concern. Flexi-working, extended maternity leave, paternity rights — political shifts that have enhanced millions of lives — will not be scrapped under David Cameron. Or Downing Street would be blockaded by Bugaboos. The outcry over the Government’s plans to cut the childcare vouchers scheme that rewards parents earning more than £42,000 a year shows how even middle-income families believe that they should be subsidised by the (possibly poorer) childless.

Yet, for all these gains, do parents ever express gratitude or grace? Instead, their dissatisfaction fed by the family-feeding companies flogging them bigger people carriers, flashier prams, they lament only what they lack.

So your baby woke you at dawn, you’ve gained a stone, you’re short on sex or fun or “me time”. Shuffle the playlist, sister. It will pass, all of it, quicker than you think. And the decades will dissolve until you too are struggling across a supermarket car park, barged aside by pious pram-pushers, and wondering how it came to be that caring for your own progeny comes with a free pass not to give a damn about anyone else.

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I find this totally disgusting: the article writer’s parents needed a parking spot close to the store because they were disabled, and they come out to find a nasty note on their car condemning them for parking in a spot meant for entitled young parents. Hello! Parents need to exercise off the fat from having a baby. Disabled people have limited mobility. What the hell is wrong with people nowadays? It’s not her parent’s fault there were no more available handicapped parking spaces.

I think it is high time to do away with child/parent and so-called “expecting” parking spaces, everywhere. Women who are pregnant, and have young children, are NOT disabled. It won’t kill them to walk a few more feet in a regular parking spot. Who the hell do they think they are, dictating to how the world should treat them? They are not better than childfree people, handicapped people, or anyone else. These people made a choice to get pregnant (presumedly because they do not know how to use birth control in any shape or form) and have a baby (or should I say sex trophy?). All these entitlements minded mothers do is whine, bitch, and whine some more about how haaaaard it is being a mother. They made their bed, now they must lie in it.

Many fish, that is. This idiot was driving a truck with a 6 year old child in her lap.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20091111/ap_on_fe_st/us_odd_airport_aquarium_crash_3

Woman drives into aquarium at Tampa airport
AP

Tuesday November 10, 2009

TAMPA, Fla. – The driver and the child in her lap survived when a pickup truck slammed into a 1,500-gallon aquarium at Tampa International Airport. The tropical fish were not so lucky. Airport officials said 36-year-old Yamile Campuzano-Martine lost control of her truck and drove into the saltwater tank outside the American Airlines baggage claim Monday night. Airport spokeswoman Brenda Geoghagan said the driver had an unrestrained 6-year-old boy in her lap.

About 90 percent of the 30 to 40 saltwater fish in the tank were killed.

The aquarium was part of a public art program. The airport spent $200,000 on the exhibit, which included the 12-foot tank.

Campuzano-Martine was cited for careless driving. No number was listed for her in public records.
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Cited for careless driving and not cited for endangering a child’s life. She needs to be forced to pay the Tampa International Airport every penny of the $200,000 plus money so they can replace the fish. Nobody feels sorry for a moo and her crotchdump. The poor fish get my sympathy, though. People are stupid enough as it is. There was no reason for her to have a child in her lap while she was driving. State law dictates that if a child is in a moving vehicle, he or she has to be in the back seat, wearing a seatbelt. Throw Campuzano-Martine in jail where she belongs, and have CPS remove the child from her care. It isn’t bad enough that so many children need to be rescued from their parents.

People who have some sort of major physical imperfection and insist on giving birth. Read on:

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/northamerica/usa/6529806/Worlds-smallest-

mother-Stacey-Herald-to-give-birth-for-the-third-time.html

World’s smallest mother Stacey Herald to give birth for the third time

Stacey Herald, the world’s smallest mother, is about to give birth for the third time, despite warnings she is risking her life.

November 9, 2009

Mrs Herald, who is just 2ft 4ins, was told that becoming pregnant could kill her but has already defied doctors to have two healthy babies.

The 35-year-old from Dry Ridge, Kentucky, USA, suffers from Osteogenesis Imperfecta, which causes brittle bones and underdeveloped lungs, and means she failed to grow.

Now Mrs Herald, who uses a wheelchair, and her husband Will, who is 5ft 9ins, are awaiting the birth of their third child, due in the next four weeks.

She cannot hold her daughter because her belly gets in the way, and has to rely on her husband Will to do most things around the house.

Mrs Herald admits being pregnant is “uncomfortable” and leaves her bedridden for weeks on end. By the time the new addition, a boy, is one he will already tower over his mum.

But despite all the obstacles, Mrs Herald and her husband, a trainee priest, say they want even more children.

The couple met in 2000 while working for a supermarket in their home town and were desperate for a family after marrying in 2004.

But doctors warned Mrs Herald a baby would grow so large inside her tiny body it would eventually crush her organs.

“It broke my heart that I couldn’t have kids,” she said.

“All my life my parents had told me that I could do anything. Then there were these doctors telling me that we couldn’t be a complete family. It really hurt.”

Eight months later, the couple were thrilled when they discovered Mrs Herald was pregnant and decided to go ahead even though family and doctors begged them to reconsider.

“They all told me that I would die. They begged me not to have a baby. Even my mother said,’ You know you won’t survive right?’

“I told her: ‘It’s a miracle that I am here, that I have life, why couldn’t this be a miracle too?’”

After 28 weeks, doctors performed a cesarean section and daughter Kateri was born, weighing just 2lbs and 1oz in 2006.

She grew well but there was heartbreak for the family when they discovered Kateri had inherited Mrs Herald’s condition and would also never grow to a normal height.

But the young family resumed life as normal, before Mrs Herald became pregnant a year later.

“It was kind of like the last time, everyone screamed: ‘What are you doing?’ at us,” she said.

“The doctors told me I was pushing my luck. But we just prayed that God would bring us through it.”

She admits that the second pregnancy has taken its toll, saying: “It was hard, I got so much bigger faster. At my worst point I remember bursting into tears, because I looked like a beach ball with a head and little feet.

Doctors tried to let the second baby stay in Mrs Herald’s body for as long as possible, letting her pregnancy go to 34 weeks before taking her into theatre.

Daughter Makaya who, at 18 inches was more than half her mum’s body length when she was born, weighed 4lbs and 7oz.

Now both girls are bigger than their mother, who is now 30 weeks pregnant with her first boy.

She said: “It’s getting tougher and tougher to move.

“At the moment because I’m getting really big again I can’t hold my youngest daughter because my belly gets in the way and I can’t get my arms around her.”

Mrs Herald added: “All my babies are miracles, but we haven’t thought about if we’re going to have some more, as they’re a real handful right now.

“We didn’t plan to have more than two kids, we just think that they’re a great gift to the world, and when I look at them I see Will and I feel so full of love, it’s tough not to want more.”
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So full of love? How about full of lust? It’s hard to imagine a man or normal height doing it with someone like Stacey Herald and even though it is perfectly normal to feel sorry for anyone who has osteogenesis imperfecta, exactly what makes this feeling of entitlement for children prevail? Her daughter Kateri has inherited the mother’s condition. Just how loving is that, to have a child suffer from something like that? Is this another case of “I have this disease, now you must have it too!” sick, twisted mentality? Words escape me over this. The more I read stories like these, the more moral I find it to be without children at all. Childfree people are not selfish; far from it. People who suffer from any sort of genetic condition that they know can be passed on, but refuse to have children, are more moral. How can any adult with a conscience watch their own offspring suffer from the same disorder? To me, that is beyond reprehensible.

I’m really surprised this has not yet happened to Michelle Duggar. Warning: Graphic material ahead:

http://www.sphere.com/2009/11/06/woman-reveals-health-horror-my-vagina-fell-out/

Woman’s Health Horror: ‘My Vagina Fell Out’

by Buck Wolf

November 6, 2009

Allison Henry isn’t the first to suffer from a horrifying medical condition that few women talk about. But her case was particularly bad, and she’s just one of the few brave souls willing to come forward so that others will have the courage to seek help.

To put it bluntly, as Henry does: “My vagina fell out of my body.”

The 39-year-old school psychologist from Kenmore, Wash., suffered from a rare combination of disorders that began when she was pregnant with her son, Kirian, and she writes an amazing account of her bizarre medical condition on MomLogic.com.

“I know it sounds like a science fiction movie,” she told Sphere.com. “Every time I retell this story, I still tell myself, ‘I can’t believe this happened to me.’”

It began five years ago, when Henry was in her 10th week of pregnancy with Kirian, her second child. She had vowed that she wouldn’t gain 60 pounds this time around, and she was practicing prenatal yoga in her home when she felt a sudden pain.

“It felt like someone rammed a pitchfork up my butt, so I stopped,” she writes. “It was an intense, sharp paint, but it passed.”

Later that day, while giving her daughter lunch, she ran to the bathroom, thinking she had to urinate, and found blood gushing instead. “It was the biggest scare of my life,” she writes.

Her OB/GYN couldn’t figure out what was wrong, and she kept bleeding. “I’d bleed through a maxi pad in 30 minutes,” she says.

In her 25th week, she was put on bed rest in the hospital, where she stayed for three weeks. When she finally went home, she started bleeding again and had to go back.

“My husband and I were so worried,” she says. “My son was born 6 1/2 weeks early. Thank God, he’s OK now.”

Doctors found that she had developed a hematoma outside her placenta, and they thought that was the root of her problem.

In fact, her problems were just beginning.

‘My Insides Were on the Outside’

“One day in the bathroom, I felt something kind of strange when I was wiping,” she writes. “There wasn’t really a hole there — it felt kind of flat. I thought it was a little weird, but I had a 19-month-old and a newborn to care for, so I brushed it off. I wasn’t bleeding, I wasn’t in pain, so I didn’t address it.”

What Henry was describing was the beginning of a vaginal prolapse, a condition in which the vagina, uterus, rectum, bladder, urethra and small intestine shift and — in severe cases — innards may protrude from the body.

“Women will suffer for years and not tell anyone,” says Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz, a gynecologist in Los Angeles. “They’d rather tell their doctor they have a sexually transmitted disease than say that something is hanging out of them.”

“Allison Henry clearly had an extraordinary, horrible case,” the doctor says. “But it’s widely estimated that 30 percent of women or more suffer some degree of prolapse in their lifetime.”

Instead of dealing with her health problem, Henry turned her attention to raising her children. She also had to have an appendectomy, which consumed much of her time over the next year.

Still, each time she went to the bathroom, she noticed her problem was getting worse.

“One night, I took a look down there, and it was like my insides were on the outside and they were coming out,” she writes. “I knew I couldn’t put this off any longer. I went to my doctor and said, ‘My vagina is falling out of my body!’

“I was referred to a pelvic floor specialist. She took a look and said, ‘Holy crap — your vagina is falling out of your body, and it’s dragging your bladder and your rectum along with it!’”

In addition to a uterine prolapse, Henry also suffered rectocele — a condition wherein the rectum pushes into the back walls of the vagina. “That explained why I had been constipated for months,” she says.

Henry also suffered from cystocele, a condition similar to rectocele, only with the bladder.

While the normal uterus is 8 to 11 centimeters inside the vagina, hers was only 3 centimeters up, and when she was standing, it was sticking out at least 5 centimeters.

After confronting the problem, Henry was able to undergo a series of surgeries to restore her vagina, untwist her bladder, and push her rectum back into place.

“On top of this, I had a labia reduction, which was brutal,” she writes. “All of ‘Dr. 90210’s’ patients who say it doesn’t hurt are lying. I’d rather get my teeth pulled out than do that again!”

Stable Mable Regains Her Humor

Her road to recovery has not been easy. At one point, she lost 30 pounds and had to return to the hospital several times to deal with complications.

“I had always been a healthy person, nothing so much as a yuckie pimple when I was growing up,” she says. “And then, I was incapacitated for several weeks, many times.

“Among my friends, I was always the stable Mable,” she says. “‘I eventually started taking anti-depressants to cope with the chronic stress and I became so emotionally depleted.”

Henry credits her husband for pulling her through. “He is the kind of man who doesn’t need to be asked to do something,” she says. “He just does it. It helps a lot that he was working at home most of the time this was going on.”

It’s now a year and a half since her last stay in the hospital, and Henry came forward to tell her story because she wants women to seek help if they have to face what she has gone through.

Uterine prolapse is most common in women following menopause, childbirth or a hysterectomy, according to eMedicineHealth.com.

“Once I got past being mortified, I tried to keep my sense of humor. I can laugh about a lot of this now,” she says. “But I also know what it means to not have your health.”

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For many women, this is freaky, not just scary. Whoever heard of body parts “designed” to fall out of the body? But the pro-natalist crowd keeps screeching that a woman’s body was designed just for having babies (maybe for some women, but the rest of us think it’s not so normal). I can imagine Allison’s shock when she saw her vagina falling out and hanging onto the floor like that. I’d go into shock too. The good news is, I am not at risk for anything falling out down there (my body was not designed for that purpose). No doubt there are plenty of jokes to be made about such an incident once a woman can get past the surgery and getting everything sewn up tightly down there. The big question is, how is this this has never happened to Michelle Duggar? Oh yeah - she is almost never in an upright position to allow gravity pull hers out; she’s always laying on her back.

This happened to me today while at the library in the late afternoon. Everything was peaceful until all of a sudden, a baby started crying and gurgling. I hear a young woman’s voice shushing it. This was a fairly new baby, too, only a few months old, and the next thing I hear while I am reading a book on how women become a success in the workplace, is that she is talking to it like it is a ten year old child: “I can’t take you anywhere! Quiet!” and “This is a library! Be quiet!” As if a several month old baby knows what a library is! I peeked out from the carrel I was sitting at and saw the mother. Not so surprisingly, she looked like a fifteen year old girl who should be in school, not at the library with her baby. Bleach blond hair, skinny, with a baby in her stroller. Classy. To top that off, I heard the mother using the f-word at her child. Nice. Not only are we into the white trash and using bad language at the library, but at the kid too? I got fed up and went to the reference desk nearby and asked the librarian if anything could be done about the woman. Such as, having her please leave the building and taking her child home with her. By that time I had to get home so I was not around to see this fifteen year old in appearance have to leave with her child. But really, this was a breeder extraordinaire. Since brain cells are not required to reproduce, and this one did not look like she graduated high school, I can only conclude that the kid will have to put up with a very stupid parent in the years to come. It’s sickening to think that these young girls, so desperate to have a child of their own, wind up being  a major parenting fail in public. But since they don’t have a clue how to care for and raise the child - they only know how to breed them - they’re going to have to be expected to be looked down upon like that.