Pendragons Princess

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/article2233878.ece

Baby faced boy is a father at 13.

By: Lucy Hagan

February 12, 2009

Baby-faced Alfie, who is 13 but looks more like eight, became a father four days ago when his girlfriend Chantelle Steadman gave birth to 7lb 3oz Maisie Roxanne.

He told how he and Chantelle, 15, decided against an abortion after discovering she was pregnant.

The shy lad, whose voice has not yet broken, said: “I thought it would be good to have a baby.

“I didn’t think about how we would afford it. I don’t really get pocket money. My dad sometimes gives me £10.”

Alfie, who is just 4ft tall, added: “When my mum found out, I thought I was going to get in trouble. We wanted to have the baby but were worried how people would react.

“I didn’t know what it would be like to be a dad. I will be good, though, and care for it.”

Alfie’s dad Dennis told how the lad does not really understand the enormity of his situation — but seemed desperate to be a devoted and responsible father.

Secret

He wanted to be the first to hold Maisie after the hospital birth. He tenderly kisses the baby and gives her a bottle.

And Dennis, 45, said: “He could have shrugged his shoulders and sat at home on his Playstation. But he has been at the hospital every day.”

Maisie was conceived after Chantelle and Alfie — just 12 at the time — had a single night of unprotected sex.

They found out about the baby when Chantelle was 12 weeks pregnant.

But they kept it a secret until six weeks later when Chantelle’s mum Penny, 38, became suspicious about her weight gain and confronted her.

After that Alfie’s family told only those closest to them for fear he would be “demonised” at school.

Chantelle gave birth to Maisie on Monday night after a five-hour labour at Eastbourne Hospital, East Sussex.

Last night she told The Sun: “I’m tired after the birth. I was nervous after going into labour but otherwise I was quite excited.”

Chantelle told how she discovered she was expecting after going to her GP with “really bad” stomach pains. She said: “Me and Alfie went. The doctor asked me whether we had sex. I said yes and he said I should do a pregnancy test. He did the test and said I was pregnant. I started crying and didn’t know what to do.

“He said I should tell my mum but I was too scared.

“We didn’t think we would need help from our parents. You don’t really think about that when you find out you are pregnant. You just think your parents will kill you.”

But Penny figured out what was going on after buying Chantelle a T-shirt which revealed her swelling tum.

Chantelle admitted she and Alfie — who are both being supported by their parents — would be accused of being grossly irresponsible. She said: “We know we made a mistake but I wouldn’t change it now. We will be good loving parents.

“I have started a church course and I am going to do work experience helping other young mums.

“I’ll be a great mum and Alfie will be a great dad.”

Chantelle and Maisie were released from hospital yesterday. They are living with Penny, Chantelle’s jobless dad Steve, 43, and her five brothers in a rented council house in Eastbourne. The family live on benefits. Alfie, who lives on an estate across town with mum Nicola, 43, spends most of his time at the Steadmans’ house.

He is allowed to stay overnight and even has a school uniform there so he can go straight to his classes in the morning.

Alfie’s dad, who is separated from Nicola, believes the lad is scared deep down.

He said: “Everyone is telling him things and it’s going round in his head. It hasn’t really dawned on him. He hasn’t got a clue of what the baby means and can’t explain how he feels. All he knows is mum and dad will help.

“When you mention money his eyes look away. And she is reliant on her mum and dad. It’s crazy. They have no idea what lies ahead.”

Dennis, who works for a vehicle recovery firm, described Alfie as “a typical 13-year-old boy”.

He said: “He loves computer games, boxing and Manchester United.” Dennis, who has fathered nine kids, told how he was “gobsmacked” when he discovered Alfie was to be a dad, too.

He said: “When I spoke to him he started crying. He said it was the first time he’d had sex, that he didn’t know what he was doing and of the complications that could come.

“I will talk to him again and it will be the birds and the bees talk. Some may say it’s too late but he needs to understand so there is not another baby.”

Chantelle’s mum said: “I told her it was lovely to have the baby but I wish it was in different circumstances. We have five children already so it’s a big financial responsibility. But we are a family and will pull together and get through.

“She’s my daughter. I love her and she will want for nothing.”

Last night Michaela Aston, of the anti-abortion Christian charity LIFE, said: “We commend these teenagers for their courage in bringing their child into the world.

“At the same time this is symptomatic of the over-sexualisation of our youngsters and shows the policy of value-free sex education just isn’t working.”

Britain’s youngest known father is Sean Stewart. He became a dad at 12 when the girl next door, 15-year-old Emma Webster, gave birth in Sharnbrook, Bedford, in 1998. They split six months later.

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Ah, children making babies. What not a joy. These kids need some major behavior modification lessons, as well as learning how to use protection if they insist on having sex. Thirteen is not only too young to have sex but my guess is, no company in the UK allows a 13 year old to work full time at a job in order to support a baby. And what was going through the head of the fiteen year old girl, having sex with a boy two years younger than her? And of course Chantelle’s mother, who seems to be too weak to know how to say the two magic words “No Babies!” just goes ahead with “I told her it would be lovely to have a baby.” The girl’s parents already have five children to take care of. “But we are a family.” Yeah. Leeching off of others is a family - not. Of course, Alfie’s father Dennis fathered nine kids, too. It does look like these kids are learning how to make babies from their parents and at this point I really am not surprised. Children who are exposed to parental sexual behavior, it seems, are more likely to become parents as children themselves. They learn firsthand, whether it’s watching Mommy’s belly grow over a nine month period, or worse yet, during a hands-on lesson. Hopefully none of my friendly readers hurl too hard over the concept of co-sleeping, which immediately comes to mind. As if children need to watch their parents doing it in bed.

There is no need for children to become parents at such young ages. What will become of Chantelle? Drop out of high school? What about Alfie? He is not even in high school. How does he plan on supporting a wife and a baby? As much as I love the British, their society is screwed up royally when it comes to educating their children about certain behaviors. I am making no exceptions for American society either, which is royally screwed up in this department, too. What part of “Sexual intercourse is a high risk behavior for children” do some of them not understand? Maybe we need to get back to the good old days when sexual intercourse was considered forbidden knowledge to children. It is obvious that the British form of sex education is not preventing children from making babies - just the opposite - it appears to be teaching children how to make babies. No 13 year old needs to know how to make a baby. His father is as irresponsible as they come, and so is the mother of Chantelle. These are people who do not seem to know the cause of children because if they did, they would learn how to use contraceptives. Until parents are held responsible for what their children do, this practice of baby making will never, ever in a million years, be glorified as the salvation of the human race, because it isn’t.