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Oct 28 2009

Why teen girls should never have babies

Published by selidororous under Bad Parenting Edit This

This happened to me today while at the library in the late afternoon. Everything was peaceful until all of a sudden, a baby started crying and gurgling. I hear a young woman’s voice shushing it. This was a fairly new baby, too, only a few months old, and the next thing I hear while I am reading a book on how women become a success in the workplace, is that she is talking to it like it is a ten year old child: “I can’t take you anywhere! Quiet!” and “This is a library! Be quiet!” As if a several month old baby knows what a library is! I peeked out from the carrel I was sitting at and saw the mother. Not so surprisingly, she looked like a fifteen year old girl who should be in school, not at the library with her baby. Bleach blond hair, skinny, with a baby in her stroller. Classy. To top that off, I heard the mother using the f-word at her child. Nice. Not only are we into the white trash and using bad language at the library, but at the kid too? I got fed up and went to the reference desk nearby and asked the librarian if anything could be done about the woman. Such as, having her please leave the building and taking her child home with her. By that time I had to get home so I was not around to see this fifteen year old in appearance have to leave with her child. But really, this was a breeder extraordinaire. Since brain cells are not required to reproduce, and this one did not look like she graduated high school, I can only conclude that the kid will have to put up with a very stupid parent in the years to come. It’s sickening to think that these young girls, so desperate to have a child of their own, wind up being  a major parenting fail in public. But since they don’t have a clue how to care for and raise the child - they only know how to breed them - they’re going to have to be expected to be looked down upon like that.

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Oct 14 2009

Five teens charged with setting another teen on fire.

Published by selidororous under Bad Parenting Edit This

Nothing shocks me anymore:


5 Charged With Setting Teen on Fire

October 14, 2009

DEERFIELD BEACH, Fla. (Oct. 14) — Five teenagers were charged with aggravated battery Tuesday for dousing a 15-year-old with rubbing alcohol and setting him on fire after a dispute over money owed and an attempted bicycle theft, authorities said.

Michael Brewer was hospitalized with burns on more than three-quarters of his body after the attack at a Deerfield Beach, Fla., apartment complex Monday.

The Broward County Sheriff’s Office said in a news release that 15-year-olds Matthew Bent, Denver Jarvis, Steven Shelton and Jesus Mendez and 13-year-old Jeremy Jarvis were charged with aggravated battery. Mendez was also charged with attempted second-degree murder because authorities say he flicked the lighter.

The victim’s brother-in-law, Danny Martinez, told the South Florida Sun Sentinel that Brewer is in serious condition but doing OK.

He was burned on his torso and arms, sheriff’s spokesman Jim Leljedal said. Family members said most of his hair, including his eyelashes, had also been burned off.

“In my 31 years, you always say, ‘It’s the most heinous crime I’ve seen,’” Broward County Sheriff Al Lamberti told the Miami Herald. “In this case, this one fits in that category.”

Police say Brewer had borrowed $40 from Bent to buy a video game but never paid him back. When Bent tried to steal a bike belong to Brewer’s father, Brewer called police.

Brewer refused to attend classes at Deerfield Beach Middle School on Monday because of the bicycle incident Sunday, authorities said.

Instead of going to school, Brewer went to the apartment complex to visit a friend. He told deputies that while he was sitting by the swimming pool, he was splashed with a flammable liquid and set ablaze.

A neighbor heard his screams for help and put out the flames with a fire extinguisher, said Malissa Durkee, Brewer’s sister. The teen then ripped off his shirt and jumped into the pool.

Brewer is expected to remain hospitalized for five months, Martinez said.

Bent and the Jarvis brothers were in court Tuesday and were ordered held in a juvenile detention center for 21 days. The Fort Lauderdale Sun Sentinel reported that attorney Stephen Melnick said Jeremy Jarvis was “just there. He was not accused of actually doing it.” Attorneys for the other two said they were “minimally involved.”

The five were not charged as adults, but Leljedal said the sheriff’s office typically releases the names of anyone charged with a felony, regardless of age.

The Sun Sentinel said that all five boys had prior criminal records.
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All five boys had prior criminal records. It bears repeating here given the nature of this heinous crime. Now I said that nothing shocks me anymore when it comes to snowflakes, and I meant it. Now we have the #1 question at the helm here: “WHERE were the parents at the time of this crime?” No, I am not talking about the parents of the unfortunate boy, I am talking about the parents of the five criminals, if they even exist. On the surface the story sounds like another case of white trash committing a heinous crime - the authorities were good enough to release the names of these criminals. These criminals are not the precious, Christ-image deities their “parents” worship - or are they? More like the image of Satan. How cold and apathetic are the expressions on their faces?:

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That’s quite an image of two of the monsters, Jeremy and Denver Jarvis. Pure evil does exist, and hopefully they will be in jail for the rest of their lives with no chance for parole at all.

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Sep 11 2009

The little girl was called a little blank by a waiter in a restaurant.

Published by selidororous under Bad Parenting Edit This

I actually laughed as I read this one:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1212583/
Family-horrified-getting-restaurant-describing-year-old-daughter-little-f–er.html

‘Thanks, you little f*****’: Family horrified after restaurant bill makes clear what waiters thought of Molly, two

By Daily Mail Reporter

11th September 2009

Most parents have experienced their young children getting restless when waiting for a meal in a restaurant.

But not many get the bill at the end of it with a message describing their offspring as a ‘little f*****’.

This is what happened to parents Craig and Kimberley Cartin at a Mexican restaurant in Halifax, West Yorkshire, where they received the receipt which had ‘Thank you little f*****’ written on it.

Visiting the brand new eaterie, called Cactus Joe’s, on its opening weekend the family had already been frustrated by slow service and poor food, which caused hungry two-year-old Molly to complain.

‘Unbelievably offensive’: The family’s receipt - the obscenity is the last item on the bill

The couple believe her mild protests triggered the shocking comment - despite being seated in the advertised ‘kids’ zone’.

Fuming Craig, a 34-year-old administrator, said: ‘I couldn’t believe my eyes.  The meal was indifferent anyway but to be abused on the bill is unbelievably offensive.

‘I consider myself a fairly easy-going guy but this was too much, it’s awful behaviour.

‘Molly was a bit grumbly, a bit moany, but her behaviour certainly wasn’t  terrible - so this was just uncalled for. Presumably they meant to delete it  before printing but it’s still no excuse.’

Kimberley, 25, who was also with one-year-old daughter Megan at the time, described how the family had to wait a long time for their meal and then the offensive bill.

She said: ‘It was really quiet when we were in there.

‘But somehow they still managed to take that long to serve us and after about 20 minutes, Molly started to get restless and a bit impatient.

‘She wanted to get up and walk around but we wouldn’t let her so she had a little tantrum.

‘When we asked for the bill there was another long wait so I went up to pay at  the counter and that is when I saw the swear word on the bill.

‘I couldn’t believe it. The woman looked really embarrassed and the manager  apologised but I could still see people whispering and sniggering.

‘It’s out of order.’

Restaurant owner Steve Ryan apologised for the message and said the member of  staff responsible, believed to be a 29-year-old manageress, had been sacked.

He said: ‘This was absolutely inexcusable and it won’t be tolerated. The person  involved has been sacked and I am planning on consulting my lawyers to see if I can take further action against her.

‘I have visited the customer involved and invited him to be our guest this weekend. We offer unreserved apologies.’

The incident rounds off a torrid first fortnight for the restaurant.

After opening on August 28 it had to close again just days later because the gas  supply was inadequate causing dozens of cancellations.

Kimberley said she and Craig turned down the restaurant’s offer to be their guest.
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I guess the kid’s section did not work out too well in this new restaurant. Or maybe the new management was so poor and sloppy, the manager came from the local trailer park, thus exacerbating the poor service. I have this image of the manager saying, “I don’t know what the hell I’m doing.” Then we have the parents of the 2-year old grommet who decided to turn into a fire engine while the family waited for their meal. Not so precious, according to the person who left the message on the bill for the couple. As usual, the parents had their own excuse as to why they could not control their child or quietly leave the restaurant with her. It’s just another sign of the massive parenting fails around the globe.

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Aug 27 2009

Now this is real helicopter parenting.

http://www.clickorlando.com/education/20568523/detail.html?

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Dad Takes Son To School In Helicopter
Landing At Clermont High School Under Investigation

POSTED: Wednesday, August 26, 2009

CLERMONT, Fla. — An investigation has been launched after a man took his son to his first day of high school in a helicopter and landed the chopper on the Clermont campus without permission.

Bart Southern, who rented the blue and white Hughes 300 helicopter from Air Orlando, said he flew his son to East Ridge High School “to make a positive impression on the other students,” according to a Lake County sheriff’s report.

Two deputies spotted the helicopter at about 7 a.m. Monday and soon thereafter received calls from school officials about the helicopter, which landed behind some portables on the east side of campus, the report said.

It’s not known how many students witnessed the landing.

The school principal, David Cunningham, requested that an investigation be launched to find out if there was an emergency. Deputies contacted the FAA, which said the chopper had been rented by Southern.

According to the Lake County sheriff’s report, Southern admitted that he landed the helicopter on the campus.

Cunningham said he would “forward the information though his chain of command,” the report stated.

Watch Local 6 News for more on this story.

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What exactly was the purpose of Southern dropping off his son in a helicopter for? He clearly did not have permission to land the helicopter on school grounds, even if he owned the helicopter. Perhaps Southern was busy trying to be a big buddy to his little buddy (Yo, Gilligan!) in getting him to school on he first day. One can only wonder how his son’s peers will treat him now - like the snob he and his father is? No, it would be wrong to blame a teenaged boy for the stupid actions of his father. Chances are Southern would say something like: “But my son insisted I bring him to school this way!” while the father is busy projecting his fantasies onto his unassuming teenaged son. It just goes to show you how desperate some parents are in wanting to live their childhood all over again through their offspring.

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Aug 09 2009

Another baby crawls into a street in Ohio

Published by selidororous under Bad Parenting Edit This

http://news.aol.com/article/toddler-found-on-ohio-street/608929?icid=main|main

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Boy in Diaper Found Crawling on Street
AP

August 9, 2009

SOUTH EUCLID, Ohio Aug. 8 - A driver on her way to work has found a toddler crawling in the middle of a busy Ohio intersection.

Rachel Downey spotted the 14-month-old boy Friday morning in the Cleveland suburb South Euclid. She hit her brakes, jumped out of her car and grabbed him.

She says he was “smack in the middle of the street.” He was dressed in just a diaper and a green one-piece outfit.
After a brief search Downey found the boy’s mother in a nearby house.

Police say the boy apparently wandered out of the house when a construction worker there left a door open. Lt. Jeff Meyers says the case is under investigation and has been referred to social workers.
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I wonder what the mother in the house nearby was doing? Sleeping? Eating breakfast? Watching Jerry Springer? Once again we have another major parenting fail of a mother not keeping an eye on her child. It is a good thing someone was smart enough to pull over and alert the authorities about this. I wonder how many times this has happened before? I realize this is not a unique case as other similar stories have arisen in the past year or so. If people can’t keep a close watch on their babies (and I doubt the 14 month old was tall enough to open the front door himself), then maybe they should not be having children.

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Jul 27 2009

Child Cannibalism Case in Texas

Published by selidororous under Bad Parenting Edit This

Squeamish alert ahead (edited for graphic content):

http://news.aol.com/article/police-say-woman-kills-baby-eats-brain/588892

Otty Sanchez, 33, is charged with capital murder in the death of her infant son, Scott Wesley Buchholtz-Sanchez. She was recovering from her wounds at a hospital, and was being held on $1 million bail.

San Antonio Police Chief William McManus said the early Sunday morning attack occurred a week after the child’s father moved out. Otty Sanchez’s sister and her sister’s two children, ages 5 and 7, were in the house, but none were harmed.

Otty Sanchez’s aunt, Gloria Sanchez, said her niece had been “in and out” of a psychiatric ward, and that the hospital called several months ago looking to check up on her. She did not elaborate on the nature of her niece’s health problems.

“Otty didn’t mean to do that. She was not in her right mind,” a sobbing Gloria Sanchez told The Associated Press on Monday by phone. She said her family was devastated.

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This is just one more reason the federal government needs to institute some major testing of all wanna-be parents. It is not often that I have to edit a piece like this, but the facts are too graphic even for this blog. With strict psychological testing, this whole “But you’d be a great parent!”, “I want a baybee!”, and “Having a child makes you a better person!” will weed out the low-lifes who want a child for all of the wrong reasons. Eliminate every single female who has used illegal drugs, has a major chemical imbalance, has been determined mentally ill in any way, and that will save a lot of children’s lives. I’m still in favor of sterilization for such women, they have no right to have babies at all.

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Jul 18 2009

Children shouldn’t play with fire.

Published by selidororous under Bad Parenting Edit This

This one is a real winner:

http://www.denverpost.com/breakingnews/ci_12864427?source=rss

A 7-year-old Littleton boy was burned so badly in a fire Friday evening that he has been flown to the Shriner’s Hospital in California for treatment.

The boy, whose identity has not been released, received 2nd and 3rd degree burns over 90 percent of his body, according to West Metro Fire Rescue spokesman Micki Trost. The boy was transported by ambulance to Swedish Hospital, then helicoptered to Children’s Hospital in Aurora, which then made the decision to send him to California.

Investigators say they believe the 7-year-old started a fire in his family’s condominium on West Phillips Drive when he was playing with a lighter in a bedroom closet around 5 p.m. Friday.

A smoke alarm alerted his sister and mother, who ran upstairs to pull him out of the fire. The mother received burns to her hands and feet and was taken to Swedish.

Firefighters commended the 8-year-old sister, who called 911 and gave the dispatcher a detailed and accurate description of what was going on. Firefighters said they were able to respond appropriately when they got there based on her information.

The husband and father, who is in the U.S. Army, was located in Missouri and was being flown by the Red Cross to California.

The two-story structure received significant damage but the fire was contained to that unit and did not damage adjacent units. The burned unit is uninhabitable, Trost said.

Spokeswoman Trost said all parents should know that almost every fire department in the state has a free training program for parents whose children are showing an interest or fascination with fire.
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I wonder where the kid got the lighter from? Didn’t the parents know what the kid was doing at that hour, or were they too busy making supper? There are a lot of unanswered questions to this story. Maybe from now on the parents will keep all forms of fire out of the hands of their children. This is a very sad story and I hope the seven year old survives, but it won’t be without multiple surgeries to his skin. Let this be a lesson to parents everywhere so they don’t make a daily fail in raising their children.

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Jul 01 2009

Father of nine deserts kids to have twins with another woman.

Published by selidororous under Bad Parenting Edit This

I saw this over at Parent Dish (which should be called Failed Parenting):

http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,529597,00.html

Father Who Ditched Nine Kids Via Safe Haven Law Has Twins on the Way

Tuesday, June 30, 2009
By Joshua Rhett Miller

The Nebraska man who abandoned his nine children under the state’s Safe Haven law last year is expecting to become the father of twins, FOXNews.com has learned.

Gary Staton, 37, became a single father in February 2007 when his wife, RebelJane, died of a cerebral aneurysm shortly after giving birth to the couple’s ninth child. Unable to handle the burden alone, Staton made national news more than a year later on Sept. 24 when he dropped off his children — ages 1 to 17 — at a hospital in Omaha. According to the law at the time, parents could hand children up to age 18 over to state custody without prosecution. Legislators would later amend the law to limit its reach to infants up to 30 days old.

Joanne Manzer — the wife of RebelJane’s father, Jack Manzer — told FOXNews.com that Staton informed his children last week that he’s expecting to become a father again with his new girlfriend, a woman named Gail.

“I was told she’s pregnant with twins,” Manzer told FOXNews.com. “[Staton] told them the last time he visited them in Lincoln, that his girlfriend Gail was pregnant. He even showed them the ultrasound picture.”

Staton, who could not be reached for comment for this article, declined to discuss his girlfriend’s pregnancy when the Omaha World-Herald reported on Sunday that he would become a father again. Details of a multiple birth and the woman’s name were not included in that report, but in an e-mail to the newspaper, Staton said, “Do you think I’m going to raise this one alone?”

Joanne Manzer said Staton’s seven youngest children are staying with their mother’s aunt, who plans on adopting them. The two oldest boys, she said, are living with a 75-year-old woman in Omaha so they can graduate high school. Despite the revelation that Staton will be a father again, Manzer said the children aren’t angry.

“They don’t seem to be, they’re doing fine,” Manzer said. “He goes up there for visits — they still have a connection. They kind of understood what he did, he was stressed with everything else.”

Asked if she and RebelJane’s father felt differently, Manzer replied, “It’s his life. He can do whatever he wants as long as he doesn’t hurt the kids anymore. That’s all we care about at this point.”

Manzer said she wishes that Staton had turned to his family for help instead of abandoning the children at Omaha’s Creighton University Medical Center.

“He did what he did, but we wish he had done it a different way,” she said. “If he had come to anyone in the family, we would’ve figured something out. He didn’t come to us though, and I saw him the morning he dropped off the kids.”

She said the children wouldn’t have been left in the hands of the state, if the children’s mother had survived her last pregnancy and become a single mom.

“Rebel would’ve done it different, she would’ve talked it out more,” Manzer said. “If she thought the kids needed counseling, she would’ve been on anyone’s door to keep her kids, that’s how she was. Gary’s the kind of person who doesn’t talk it out.”

In November, after its first special session in more than five years, Nebraska’s legislators revised the safe haven law to apply only to babies up to 30 days old. Gov. Dave Heineman said the original law had “serious unintended consequences” after 36 children — ranging from 1 to 17 years old — were abandoned at hospitals, including children brought to Nebraska from as far away as California and Washington. Twenty-two of the 36 children were age 13 or older, and eight were ages 10-12, according to state records.

“Revising the law to create a ‘baby safe haven’ in Nebraska does two things,” Heineman said in a statement last November. “First, it puts the focus back on the original intent of these laws, which is saving newborn babies and exempting a parent from prosecution for child abandonment. It should also prevent those outside the state from bringing their children to Nebraska in an attempt to secure services.”

The last use of the state’s safe haven law was on Nov. 21, the last day it applied to children up to age 18. A 14-year-old boy from Yolo County, Calif., was abandoned at the Kimball County Hospital by his mother, who drove roughly 1,200 miles to get there.

The boy, who was not identified, was later placed in the custody of the Yolo County Department of Employment and Social Services.

Kathie Osterman, a spokeswoman for Nebraska’s Department of Health and Human Services, said the Staton family had received more than $995,000 in government aid as of last fall, including an estimated $600,000 in food stamps and more than $100,000 in Medicaid.

Safe Haven laws have been passed in all 50 states since 1999, according to the National Safe Haven Alliance. The District of Columbia is the only place in the U.S. without such a provision.

Melyssa Cowburn, of Tacoma, Wash., said she utilized Nebraska’s Safe Haven law on Nov. 13 when she drove to Omaha to drop off a 5-year-old boy who had been literally dropped in her arms by a woman at a North Carolina Wal-Mart four years earlier.

Cowburn said the boy had been diagnosed with reactive detachment disorder and intermittent explosive disorder, conditions that can stem from parental abandonment. After several violent episodes, including attempts to set the family’s house on fire and a hammer attack on another child, Cowburn drove the boy to a hospital in Omaha. She then drove alone to her mother’s house nearby, sobbing the entire ride, she said.

“I’m not good, you know, I still miss him,” Cowburn told FOXNews.com. “But I couldn’t give my child the help he needed, and as the saying goes, if you love something, you have to let it go.”

Cowburn, who said her case was drastically different from Staton’s, called for improved child services nationwide.

“The law helped, but honestly, they need to address a lot of child service issues,” she said. “A lot of the Safe Haven kids were parents just trying to get help. It answered a need that a lot of parents had. There’s no place to put these kids that will help them.”

Cowburn’s mother, Ruth Thompson, said Nebraska’s law saved her daughter’s life after running into countless dead-ends elsewhere.

“It was a good thing because I thought [the boy] was going to kill her,” Thompson told FOXNews.com. “There’s so many kids that need a certain kind of help that the parents just can’t give.”

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This punk needs to be snipped. See his photo below. What female in her right mind would sprog with a guy like this? Outside of an extremely desperate female, that is. Love that name, RebelJane. Makes me wonder which motorcycle group they hang out with. Probably Hell’s Angels. Obviously neither one of them knew how to use birth control, and now that this creep wants to eliminate the memory of his first wife, wants to move on and keep breeding. How sick is that? This is proof enough that people have children for all of the wrong reasons. Nobody ever died from not breeding. Our society is getting worse and worse with the rabid breeding. We are acting worse than animals when we(sic) do that. Sterilize the guy the hard way and he’ll be much better off that way.

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Jun 24 2009

Baby rescued from a locked car in Iowa

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http://www.wcfcourier.com/articles/2009/06/23/news/breaking_news/doc4a40c6c2cede9134559418.txt

UNI police rescue baby locked in car

CEDAR FALLS — A 2-month-old baby was rescued from a locked car near the University of Northern Iowa campus Monday night.

According to Jim O’Connor, spokesman for UNI, campus police were alerted to a baby locked in a hot car about 8:20 p.m., with its windows up. The car was found near the UNI soccer fields, and there were no parents around, he said.

With concern for the child’s life, officers broke out the windows to the car. The baby was taken to Covenant Medical Center in Waterloo. O’Connor said this morning the last he heard the baby was “doing OK.”

He did not know how long the child was in the enclosed vehicle.

According to the National Weather Service, it was 88 degrees with a heat index of 93 degrees in the area at 8 p.m. on Monday.

O’Connor said the car wasn’t parked at a place where they could make a general announcement to find the parents. He did not have information on the parents this morning.

He said the matter is still under investigation.
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This isn’t the first time some dumbwit locked their child in the car on a hot day. There is no mention as to whether the person who did it was a student though that is a possibility. Thankfully the baby was found alive and cared for. Hopefully the parent(s) will be found and arrested for the senseless stupidity of leaving a baby locked in a hot car during the summer.

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Jun 17 2009

Our kids are out of control and destroying our marriage

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http://www.drphil.com/slideshows/slideshow/4973/?id=4973&slide=0&showID=1221&preview=&versionID=

So this couple says while appearing on the Tuesday, June 16 episode of Dr. Phil:

 

“I feel I’m at my wit’s end with the whole household because the boys are out of control. It’s constant battling, fighting,” says Melissa. “Rob has a whole different set of rules for Brandon than he does for his own boys.”

“There’s no consistency with having rules for all three of them,” says Robert. “Brandon does not have any rules, and Melissa does not follow through on giving him any rules.”

“Every time I try to make rules, it just seems to fall apart,” Melissa explains. “I’m powerless because I’m the step-mom. Rob overrides everything that I say.”

Melissa thinks she knows the reason her household has reeled out of control. “This whole house is on marijuana,” she says. “My son, Brandon, uses marijuana every single day.”
“I won’t ever stop smoking weed,” says 20-year-old Brandon. “It’s just natural. It grows out of he ground.”

Fifteen-year-old Jacob says, “Brandon smokes marijuana, and my dad just let’s it go.”

“I do feel hypocritical,” says Robert. “I smoked pot at their age, and that could be part of the problem.”

Are Melissa and Robert’s sons the only ones picking up the pipe? Melissa thinks not. “I suspect Rob is using marijuana. I was putting groceries in Rob’s vehicle, and I found marijuana seeds, marijuana flakes,” she says. “It was marijuana.”

Melissa and Robert say they have so many issues they’re afraid they might be headed for divorce. Robert says their problems stem from their kids. The couple shares their list of grievances.

“Everything seems impossible to me right now. It’s pure chaotic hell in this house,” says Melissa. “A few months ago, Ben and Jacob did steal the company car and went joy riding.”

“Jacob has a 13-year-old girlfriend. He sleeps over at his girlfriend’s house,” says Rob.

“Brandon and Rob’s relationship’s horrible,” says Melissa. “You never know when somebody’s going to break into a fistfight.”

But the kids are not the only source of conflict in this blended family. Robert says, “Melissa is extremely jealous and insecure.”

“Rob spends way too much money,” says Melissa. “I feel I’m not woman enough for Rob any longer.”

Dr. Phil asks Robert, “Why do you want to be here today? What’s your objective, what’s your goal?”

“My number one goal is to get help for my family, and to repair my marriage,” he says.

“If it’s just you and the two boys, would everything be OK?” asks Dr. Phil. “Is this the toxic part of this situation?”

“No, I think I’m as much to blame as she is,” says Robert. “I really do.”

Dr. Phil asks for Melissa’s opinion. “Is it just we’ve got a bad mix here?”

“No, I don’t feel we have a bad mix,” she says. “I came into this household trying to straighten it out and make rules, and if I would leave him, I think the boys would be in more trouble than they are now, because I try to put a little bit of ground rules down.”
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There are very few families nowadays that are not mixed - stepchildren, stepparents, “everyone is an uncle”, and so on. But this is not to say that a mixed family cannot work out because many times, they can. The problem here is these two big people - Melissa and Robert - have completely forfeited their responsibilities as parents. I love how the father makes excuses for Brandon smoking the wacky weed. Brandon is 20 years old, sits around the house the whole day doing nothing but smoking weed. He doesn’t work and can’t get a job since most companies will not hire someone with an illegal drug addiction. As Dr. Phil says, the three sons are in charge of the household, not the father or mother. This is the prime example of what is going on in America today - people who think their children are snowflakes from seventh heaven then turn a blind eye when their child does something wrong. Then we have Jacob, the 13 year old who is sexually active with a girl. Well, there really isn’t too much that can be said for that, since America’s children are becoming sexually active at younger and younger ages. But, this is what happens when the parents are too busy trying to be best buddies with their offspring. Interestingly enough, neither Melissa nor Robert claim to be each other’s best friends. No wonder they look to their kids for that sort of relationship, even though it damages both parties involved.

One last excerpt from the interview:

 

“Melissa says she and Robert need to be better communicators. “We need to stick together for the boys. Like, my son, the 20-year-old, he pretty much controls me. Like, if I say no to him, then he’s violent. He hasn’t hit me or anything, but he gets angry.” She reiterates what Brandon said, that he’s never going to stop smoking marijuana. “So, how do we straighten out this family? I mean, I bought him three cars, I give him everything, and I just stopped paying his bills about eight months ago. He hasn’t paid one.”

Once again, the “I give my kids everything and they are still lazy slobs” syndrome rears its ugly head. I wonder if Melissa and Robert realize they deliberately set themselves and their sons up to fail? Luckily Dr. Phil gives both the parents straight F’s on their report cards. neither Melissa nor Robert have realized quite yet that merely talking to their spawn does no good at all. Of course, if they really cared, the first thing they would do is call the cops. But no, they can’t, since their snowflakes would then have felon records for the rest of their lives. Before the kids can be straightened out, the parents need to be straightened out. If they can’t, their marriage will wind up in divorce, with their kids winding up in jail

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